Sometimes your best friend is your worst enemy in disguise.
Your worst enemy must get close to you in order to hurt you.
And thankfully that closeness, if you are paying attention, will allow you to
see them.
Love them for showing you the truth.
They have brought you the gift that only an
enemy can carry. That of your clarity. Use it to get rid of them.

Sometimes your best supporter is your biggest detractor.
Because your most powerful detractor IS your best supporter.
There is nothing more valuable than the learning you do in the zone of the
dynamic negative.
Those that shout angry statements must be heard.
Not that what they say is true.
The gift will come in how you deal with the lie.
Can you stand in the face of criticism and discern the difference between what you hold as truth and what you know is false?
Testing. Testing. One Two Three.

Finally, I am reading a book called “Blink” (Malcolm Gladwell).
Basically, we know the truth about anything, anyone, any situation in the blink of an eye. And then we spend lots of time proving that knowledge to be false. Only to find ourselves wrong.
The truth is percieved immediately.
We know what we know. Trust in that.
That little voice that you hear right away, is correct. Always.
Do as it says even if you don’t know why.

None of this is pretty.
But all of it is beautiful.

The only way that others can hurt you is if you let them.
And if you do, they have you.
The negative knocks on your door and you should open it, look it in the face and laugh.
The big bill that arrives, the medical thing that scares,
the rumor that spreads, SO WHAT. Your love, your truth, your peace is yours and they are all you need to manage anything.
You give those things away and the negative not only has you paying a big bill, it has you sick to your stomach and unable to think, and not able to work etc. Instead, say, COOL. A big bill means a big check must be coming my way.
Same thing for little sharp spears that want to sting you.
Just pull them out quickly, dab on some emotional peroxide,
toss them to the ground, and skip on down the street dancing.

I love this from Shakespeare’s Othello:
” The robbed that smiles, steals something from the thief.”
Yes!

There is no way more certain to fail than the way of entitlement. Go forth with the expectation that everyone should bow down to you and they will not. Go forth with kindness, humility, love and all will go to their knees to lift you upwards.. In my store, it is always the girl who expects nothing from me, and who walks gently that I give not only my all, but the all I have. And it is the girl that comes expecting the best, and that my world should spin around her every need, that finds herself on her own and resisted.
It is a life lesson.
Go forth with humility. The meek do inherit the earth. Not because they come from low self worth, but because they come with more love and respect for those they encounter than for themselves.

Finally.
I think it is hard to write the movie of our lives. There are so many characters involved, so many twists and turns to manage…….but we CAN write the character
we want to play in our movie and in the movies of others. We can decide how we would like to be cast.
And it is important to take the time to do this.
Who do you want to be? The rag doll, the lost girl, the Princess, the Wench, the Queen, the wicked step sister, the poet, the seeker, the starving artist, the whore,
the star., the failure, the success. the crazy girl, the healer……. Decide and then write out all the characteristics of that role- and consider all the things that
character will go through in the movie. Pick for yourself a character who’s life you care to experience.
Many of us are in rag doll, lost girl, whore, starving artist mode and are experiencing the terrible ups and downs that those characters generally experience. You
don’t have to go there. You don’t need to be the rag doll girl. Or the girl who never gets the guy. Or the girl who always is in dream mode and never in receive mode.
No.
You can play the other parts if you will only study the characteristics of those women. How does a star behave. What does she expect from herself and others.
How does a princess behave- a queen-a success, a healer, etc.. what are their boundaries for others and how do they treat the world around them. What sorts of
activities do they engage in? How do they speak? And what experiences do these roles generally attract– do you want them?
Are you perhaps in a role that really doesn’t suit you?
More than likely you didn’t do your research well enough and you have fallen into patterns of behavior that
have taken you down the road of experiences you really don’t want. The Rag Doll usually has terrible days and nights with men who mistreat her, and the whore is
well paid and often desired, but lacks love and true intimacy and the starving artist is always in a condition of yearning- or hoping- and of never really having
reward for their work. Don’t ever say you are a struggling actress, or that you aspire to be a novelist. You ARE what you WANT to be. You are an actress, you are a novelist,
film maker, teacher, whatever you say you are.
Today, you have the power to write your own role- you can be what ever woman you want.
Write it down. And then enter the world as her. Watch your experiences start to change- watch all your relationships shift to accommodate who you really are…….
and get verbal about it. You tell everyone in your world how you now need to be treated.

Takes courage and I know you have it.
.
Take off the mask of “the less than girl ” and let the world know just how great you are.

THE STORY

Yesterday I left the store in a hurry. I had a 5pm in
Santa Monica and was leaving late. I got in the car
and realized that I had no gas. Typical of me, I had
waited until ‘the light” had been on past the point of
comfort and knew I had to go and fill up before getting on
the freeway.
I rushed to the gas station. Put in my card and pulled out
the hose to stick it in my gas tank. I waited. The display
read… “see attendant". Damn.
My cell phone rang. A client was driving downtown to pick
things up, was running late, will we wait for her?. … etc and so
forth, I gave the guy my card, he swipes it, I take my card.
I was still on the phone with my client….. “sure we can
wait, just call Michelle…. yes, right, great,”
I go to the car, get in and drive off.
I hear a thud……..
I get out of the car at there is the hose still attached
to my tank and now completely detached from the
pump.
Everything stops for a second.
Oh my God. I have broken a gas pump.
My licence number, my phone number, and the
information that I will be charged 2 to 3 hundred dollars
when the pump is repaired.

I call JD.
“Bunny….. you aren’t going to believe this but I …"….
And as I tell him, I begin to laugh. OH my GOD.
there was the pump still attached to my car…….
And he says,” wow….. how can you laugh at this..
I would be upset for days” ……. and I say.
AND HERE IS THE THING………
I say…… “there are dramas of the soul and dramas of
matter. This is one of matter. If I make it a drama of the soul
then I will internalize it. Once it is inside me, the rest of my day
will be ruined and perhaps tomorrow too and then maybe the next
day. This is a thing that can be handled. It shall stay out side of
me……. it is a drama that is of matter– out there—and I will
keep it out there. Its just what it is. I need not make it more.”
And I laughed some more as I reviewed the experience again.

The parking ticket, the little car accident, the flat tire, the broken
vase, the spilled drink, the stained blouse, the lost cell phone.
These are mistakes, mysteries, mishaps. Let them be simple.
Take them in and you give them more power than they deserve.
Think of the little moments of challenge as just that. They challenge
your ability to stay in love, in freedom, in joy and hope. WIN
WIN. Never let the negative get you. Don’t let it in you. Just
look at it and laugh. HA HA. Fine then, I’ll pay the fee, I will get a
new cell phone, I will clean up the drink and sweep up the vase
and YOU, Negativity, dark one….. you will not get me for more than
one second………
Trust me on this…… laugh at the dark side and its miserable attempts
to steal you away from all that you are and deserve to be. Happy.
Loved, Free.